I like African art.  I like European architecture.  I like the timbre of a guitar.  I like cherry hardwood.  I like earth tones in fashion.  I like mint chocolate chip ice cream.  What do you like?

These are simple examples, but I hope the point carries over.  My point is this—we shouldn’t try to moralize what is by nature arbitrary.  Preferences like those listed above are private.  And so are the following: what area of a region you choose to live, what material the pants you wear to church are made of, what instruments are used in your preferred music genre etc.  These subjects tend to be more sensitive.  But a strong person practices distinguishing between what is part of the Law of Christ and that which is allowed to vary from culture to culture, individual to individual.

“In essentials unity, in non essentials diversity, and in all things charity.”

Conflict in community happens when the arbitrary is made into the absolute.  Learn to celebrate diversity when appropriate, and pray for wisdom to know the difference.